Timeline of a dating relationship
She spent one Monday session telling me in detail of these reasons and counting off for me all the unsatisfactory men she knew. That Thursday she told me she was engaged to be married to someone she had met after our session on Monday! She spoke about the possibility of killing herself, and, when she called me the next day and spoke to that effect, I was so concerned, I made a home visit to make sure she was all right.The following week she was in love with someone else!They are from a suburban community; and they live in the twenty-first century. (You do not have to imagine all the unsatisfactory dates they had before meeting each other.) If the man does not call the following day, the woman will feel less enthusiastic. It does not matter if she thinks, or is told by others, that it is not reasonable to expect someone to call right away.
However, the advantages of being attractive, or even beautiful, are transient.
There is still the widespread practice of arranged marriages.
They tend to work in cultures which support pairing off in this way.
In order of importance: It is usual to speak of being in love as the most important thing in deciding to get married—or staying married, for that matter. Most emotionally healthy people fall in love readily.
If a relationship comes to an end for any of the reasons that such a thing can happen, the healthy person is likely to meet someone else and fall in love all over again in months or, perhaps, a year or so. She had all kinds of reasons for despising men, including their being untrustworthy. I saw another woman for the first time after she had been jilted by her lover of the previous two years.